A Facebook group that offers women the chance to check they are not dating the same man has now taken off in the UK after gaining popularity in the US.
More than 20,000 people have joined the Are We Dating the Same Guy? group for Londoners, where women can warn each other of ‘men who might be liars, cheaters, abusers or exhibit any type of toxic or dangerous behavior’.
Women navigating the dating world generally submit screenshots of the men they are interested in, with others then commenting any information based on their own experiences.
Compiling knowledge and exchanging notes, women are then able to track the dating history of their love interests, with one of the top posts receiving over 60 comments, according to The Times.
As it turns out, the man in this post was warned of being a ‘walking red flag’, with one user ghosted by him and another knowing his former fiancée.
A Facebook group called Are We Dating the Same Guy? has taken the UK by storm as the London group already has 20,000 members
Women share dating tips, warnings for dangerous men, and any information potential love interests might want to hear in the group
The platform is also used to seek general dating advice, with the option of being anonymous offered.
While London’s group currently has the biggest following, others in Nottingham, Swindon, Bolton, and Luton have also started to gain traction.
Following in the US is currently much larger than this, with New York City’s group hosting over 85,000 members.
The London group states: ‘This group is a place for women to protect and empower other women while warning each other of men who might be liars, cheaters, abusers, or exhibit any type of toxic or dangerous behavior.
‘We strive to cultivate an atmosphere of female empowerment, acceptance, and support and will not tolerate any bullying, gaslighting, shaming, victim blaming, or aggressive behavior towards any other girls in the group.’
The group’s rules also state that ‘mean spirited or judgmental comments’ would not be tolerated, especially in relation to a person’s appearance.
‘This group is not about hating men,’ it emphasises.
The platform is also used to seek general dating advice, with the option of being anonymous offered
The success of Are We Dating the Same Guy? comes at a time when more women are feeling unprotected by police authorities in the UK
Yet the group has been criticised for encouraging a toxic culture of gossiping and invasion of privacy.
One Reddit user said: ‘I don’t know how I feel about this. Unless there is a serious danger then I’m uncomfortable with the idea.
‘What if a woman decides to make up lies about a guy and post it in that group?’
Another added: ‘The way people share men’s profiles without permission is crazy. Imagine one of your dates not liking you and going out of their way to tar your name across the internet.’
The success of Are We Dating the Same Guy? comes at a time when many women are feeling unprotected by police authorities in the UK.
Former Metropolitan Police cop, David Carrick, was recently unmasked as one of Britain’s most prolific sex offenders.
He abused and tortured 12 victims over nearly two decades after telling victims ‘I’m a police officer, you can trust me’ and flashing his warrant card.
In 2021, policeman Wayne Couzens also used Covid laws to stop, handcuff and stage the fake arrest of Sarah Everard before strangling her ‘with his police belt’.
