No matter how much you’ve known the person, you’re always going to be unsure of the things they like in bed when you’re doing it for the first time.
So, how do you make it a good experience for the two of you? We’ve got you some easy ways to deal with this situation.
1. Be ready: This one is a no-brainer, but it is the most important point of all. Make sure you’re truly ready to have sex with your partner. Sex is not just about physical intimacy, but an emotional one too. It’s totally normal to feel a bit overwhelmed, just take a minute to think about this decision of yours before you jump right in. If you’re feeling pressured, don’t do it. Take all the time you want and then decide on it later.
2. Consent: Always, and always ask for your partner’s consent. Even if you’re sure they want to have sex with you, it’s always better to ask again. Keep talking to your partner, let them know how you feel, what’s working and not working for you when you both are at it. It’s alright to change your mind and if at any point, one of you feels uncomfortable, take a break and try again. If you feel your partner is feeling pressured, talk to them, and make them feel comfortable first before rushing into it.
3. Know about the different kinds of sex: Sex can mean different things to different people and there are a few different ways too in which you can have sex. Oral sex, is when you use your mouth to give pleasure to your partner in their intimate areas. Vaginal sex is when the penis goes into the vagina. Anal sex is where the penis enters the anus. So, make sure the kind of sex you’re both wanting to have and only then proceed.
4. Foreplay is important: Have lots of foreplay before the actual act. Stop worrying about the end result. Spend as much time as possible on foreplay to build it up to intercourse. It will help you and your partner get properly turned on before the big move. Kiss, feel, stimulate your partner as much as possible so that you both feel ready for the next step.
5. Talk to each other: Sex should be fun for both of you. And so, you must keep communicating with your partner. Some things might not feel good, and you won’t know until your partner tells you about them. So make sure to talk while you’re having sex and doing things to each other. Use physical clues like moaning or giving them a little smile to judge if you guys are going in the right direction. Your partner will love the fact that they are turning you on if you make it clear with your moaning, whispers or words. Whether it’s your first time or the 100th time, talking during sex will help you understand each other’s needs in a better way each time.
